Be the Hero of Your Own Story

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By Eric Faria

Mark Twain once famously said: “The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” That statement may sound a bit harsh, but think about it: how many times have you heard individuals complain about not being appreciated by others, not getting what they deserve in life? Most likely, you have heard someone you came into contact with recently utter similar words.

During the month of August, I had a moment where I thought about not continuing this column. Fear set in, and I doubted my ability to contribute to others. I asked myself: Whom was I writing to? Did my words make a difference? Did anyone even know about my work? Then, I realized something: by not continuing in this process, I would be giving into a mediocre, pitiful existence. This is me, I love to write, I am a columnist, I want to publish my first book within the next three years. Had I stopped now, I would not have the strength pursue my foray into the literary world.

So I want to ask you: Where have you allowed fear, outside circumstances and other people to dictate the life you want to lead? When did you forget who you were – in your essence?

I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but until you choose to be the leading lady or leading man in your life, nothing will change. There will always be a spouse, kids, jobs, family members, friends, society or limiting beliefs that will get in the way of you fostering your creativity, of becoming who you were meant to be.
When was the last time you used your energy to do something for yourself? Not because you needed to do it, but because you are worthy. Ah, worthiness! I could write for the rest of my life on this topic and I know I would just be getting started.
There is nothing easy about being the hero of your own story. If you take any novel, movie or television show where we follow the protagonist’s journey, you will begin to see that there are many obstacles, conflicts and adversities to overcome. Living out your purpose may not be a walk alongside a rose garden; however, a dull existence, one where you go for the “easy” road, is a disservice to the ones that have come before and after you, and most of all, to yourself.
What will be your legacy? How do you plan to make this world a better place? Begin small and take your time; slow and steady is better than inaction. Remember: you can always begin again. As long as you are breathing, there will be people who need to be touched, moved and inspired by the gifts you have to share. Everything is a process and it takes time. The good news is you can start today!
Eric Faria is an Emotional Intelligence Coach. He has participated in self-development trainings since 2005, using these tools in his professional coaching. He graduated from an International Coach Federation program in January 2014. Eric lives in Connecticut, and in addition to working with private clients, he gives motivational talks. For more information, or to contact him, send an email to

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