By Eric Faria
How many times have you heard individuals complaining about Mondays? It may be the single most hated day of the week. Every Sunday night, some people will dread the thought of the next morning. Why is it? Was it always like this?
I firmly believe in work as a means to serve. I have heard many times from friends and family members that they hate their jobs and it makes me truly sad, because if we are put on Earth to grow and our natural gifts and abilities are what can provide so much joy to others, why do we misuse our potential?
When you stop and observe children, you will see little jolts of energy, jumping, smiling, and always curious. As we get older, life begins losing its enchantment little by little. We become accustomed with the usual; things fail to mesmerize us. We use words like amazing so often that nothing really merits that description anymore.
From a very young age, we are bombarded by our parents, teachers and society on what it means to be successful. Those are templates to be followed and replicated. Our culture rewards people who are financially rich. We see it all around us: on TV, in movies, on the internet and in magazines. Some of us swallow that pill without questioning it. The thing is, humans are not an assembly line. We each possess talents and to put brilliant minds to waste is a disgrace.
I know to rekindle the fire that was born within you takes two steps: acceptance and gratitude. When you welcome your present with open arms, the past and what could have been has no control over you and in turn, you begin seeding the future you will live into. Accept that whatever happened and where you ended up is exactly where you were supposed to be.
After acceptance comes gratitude. Appreciate everything that has happened to you: the good, the bad and the ugly. It served a purpose, and made you mature as a human being, perhaps even forcing you to confront life patterns that had run their course and only caused pain and suffering.
To implement these concepts and practice them on a daily basis, I suggest keeping a journal. You will begin to see things shift around you immediately.
Now let’s kick into high gear and contemplate the job or career of your dreams, even if you do not know what it looks like. I want you grab a pen and a piece of paper and answer these questions truthfully:
- What is something that I love doing and would be content doing it for free?
- How does my ideal day look, from the time I wake up until I go to bed?
- How would I feel and what kind of experiences would I have during that ideal day?
- How would I measure success in this new job that I love doing?
Be as specific as you can and feel in your body how even answering and thinking about these questions makes you happy.
I will continue to talk about this topic over the next few columns. I have transformed my life from a dull existence into a career that I love and helping people make the impossible the new normal in their lives is the gift that keeps on giving.
You are a leader. Now it is time to answer that call!
Eric Faria is a Career and Life Coach, focused on emotional intelligence. He has participated in self-development trainings since 2005, using these tools in his professional coaching. He graduated from an ICF (International Coach Federation) program in January 2014. Eric lives in Connecticut, and in addition to working with private clients, he gives lectures and records motivational videos. For more information, or to contact him, send an email to EricFaria11@gmail.com.