Artificial Intelligence (AI) is quickly becoming part of our daily lives. From smart speakers to voice assistants, AI is marketed as convenient and helpful. But in the wrong hands, this powerful technology can be used to control, monitor, and harm, especially in situations involving domestic or sexual violence.

Abusers are always seeking new ways to manipulate and dominate. AI now gives them invisible tools to extend that control.

Here are some of the most common ways abusers use AI and smart technology to harm.

Smart Home Devices: Abusers can remotely control smart lights, locks, thermostats, or cameras to create fear or confusion. A victim may suddenly find the front door locking on its own or lights flickering without explanation, often unaware the abuser is behind it, operating from another location.

Location Tracking: Many apps and devices can track real-time locations. Abusers may secretly install tracking software on a victim’s phone or use shared apps like family GPS trackers to follow every move, even after a breakup.

Voice Cloning, Deepfakes, and AI Bots: AI can now mimic someone’s voice or create fake videos, including explicit sexual deepfakes. Abusers might send fake voice messages or use altered videos to humiliate, control, or damage reputations. These can be shared online to shame or blackmail. Even if the content is fake, the emotional damage is real. AI bots may also be used to send threatening or manipulative messages, while pretending to be someone else.

Social Media Manipulation: Using AI, abusers can create fake accounts or posts to impersonate a survivor, posting messages they never wrote or using doctored images to ruin their credibility or relationships.

Digital Surveillance: With access to passwords, abusers can monitor messages, listen to voice recordings, or track search history through AI-driven tools.

How to Protect Yourself and Your Family

Awareness is the first step. Educate yourself and your loved ones about privacy, online safety, and how to recognize suspicious behavior.

Secure Your Devices: Use strong, unique passwords for each app and device. Enable two-factor authentication whenever possible.

Check for Spyware: Signs may include high data usage, fast battery drain, or unfamiliar apps. If you suspect spyware, contact a support center before deleting anything - it may alert the abuser.

Review Smart Home Settings: Ensure you’re the only one with access. Change passwords or reset devices, especially after a breakup.

Limit Sharing: Avoid tagging your location in real time. Disable location sharing unless absolutely necessary.

Use Trusted Resources: Talk to someone you trust or contact a local support agency. They can connect you with tech safety experts.

And most importantly: Do not believe everything you see or hear online. Always verify if it’s legitimate. Never feel pressured to share passwords, locations, or images. Love is built on trust and respect. If someone doesn’t respect your boundaries, that’s a red flag.

If you or someone you know needs help, contact The Center for Empowerment and Education at thecenterct.org or one of our two 24/7 hotlines.

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